- First, don't get involved with other peoples conflicts, it's not your business. Also, this ensures that you aren't caught up in their emotional turmoil. That's extremely detrimental to maintaining an aloof demeanor. State baldly, if you have to, that you won't get caught up in 'xyz' yada yada. People may be surprised (even angry at times) but they will respect your unwillingness to take sides in a conflict you care nothing about. Lol.
- Be serene, don't let anything faze you, and always be prepared for any event. This tranquility will permeate your mannerisms and translate "cool" to the general public. It signals to others that you have a certain detachment which allows you to weave in and out of life's tangled webs without losing your vital cool.
- Believe in yourself, but remember that arrogance makes people hate you. A quiet confidence (humble, yet proud of yourself) will endear people to you. Imagine a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being downtrodden and 10 being cocky arrogance. A 5, smack in the middle, is a safe bet, but let out subtle hints of a 7 or 8 to keep people from taking you for granted.
- Don't show your pain. Screw what everyone heard or what rumors are going around or what people saw with their own eyes. If you want to be aloof, you must handle pain with as much dignity and grace as possible. Fall to pieces in the privacy of your own home or an empty restroom if you want or must, but keep it together in public. You must! Well, at least that's how I do it.
- Smile mysteriously as if you have a secret nobody knows. Could be just for fun's sake. Gets people all the time. But don't do it for the attention, cuz it's annoying as hell.
- Don't talk a lot. Less is more. Answer questions that people ask and don't speak at EVERY opportunity or lull in the conversation. Let a nod or some other body language convey your answers. When you do speak in greater detail, you'll find that people are more apt to listen than if you were to go shooting your mouth off like there's no tomorrow.
- Be uncompromising in your style, speech, culture, whatever. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Treat others as equals, but take on just a slightly condescending edge if they grow disrespectful. That's necessary.
- Most importantly- Believe you are mysterious, aloof, and enigmatic. You can act more openly around people you trust, but don't let everyone see that side of you.
Always be who you truly are. This ensures that your aloofness is as native to your character as possible and doesn't come off as forced or contrived. Don't ignore people you don't like. Treat them coldly, answer their questions politely, but let them know subtly that you don't like them without stooping to rudeness. Never be petty. This can bring you from "aloof" to "jerk" in a heartbeat. I sometimes cross the border between that easily though.
Sums most of my thoughts and characteristics.
I didn't know that my personality could actually be labelled (Not necessarily a good thing, but surprising), and I finally found it. It's good being told what kind of person you are sometimes. Slaps in you in the face regardless of the good or bad things you've contributed. Then again, people can change, through the powerful option. CHOICE. So, don't be all beaten up if you think you're an ass.
Good day guys.
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